Videos disappearing from links

It came to my attention recently, having not been online for a while due to too much fun in the playroom that my videos have disappeared. I have no idea why as I haven’t received any email from the site, but I do intend to follow up. I’m a tad confused.

Apologies for links not working at moment, I shall make those posts private until resolved.

Availability Xmas and NY

Quick note to let anyone at a loose end know I’m available for fun over the xmas and new year period including public holidays. Call or sms to enquire or book.

Archive: Leathered up

Leathered up

Leathered up

Fun start to the day with a very responsive anal slut. Started off small, working him up to my fist till he mercied and had enough.

The day ended on a different note – with a new slut, a leather fetishist. Roleplay and lots of tease with the leather outfit, gloves and sensation play.

He didnt last as long as i hoped getting rather excited. I took pity on him and allowed the slut to cum …. this time 😉

Archive: Lots of new sluts

Lots of new sluts

Lots of new sluts mixed in with regulars of late. Anal, discipline, sounds, vac bed, mummification etc. A few new toys too. Some pics below.

New thigh high boots

New thigh high boots as a belated birthday present from a very generous slut. I hope he enjoys me wearing them, as much as I shall 🙂 A few pics below taken yesterday.

Been a very busy couple of weeks, especially this one. A lot of fun new sluts to torment as well. More on that later.

Anal Stimulation

What is Anal Stimulation?
What is Prostate Milking?
How Safe is Anal Stimulation?
Is Anal Stimulation Pleasurable?
Summary

 

What is Anal Stimulation?

Anal stimulation can involve anything that penetrates the anus stimulating the prostate. This includes fingers, toys or vibrators, strap on dildos, fisting including both, or long toys and arms for depth. Anal stimulation should never be forced. The goal is to stretch the muscles while relaxing the sphincter not to force penetration or tear the area.

What is Prostate Milking?

Prostate milking is often confused with prostate massage when it comes to anal stimulation. Prostate milking occurs when a certain area around the prostate is massaged. This causes release of seminal fluid without the accompanying pleasure experienced by orgasm. It tends to be used more in conjunction with chastity play to maintain sexual health of the slave without allowing them pleasure.

In my experience prostate milking is rarely what someone actually wants, unless they are into chastity play or denial of orgasm.

How Safe is Anal Stimulation?

Any skilled and trained Sydney Mistress should practice good sexual hygiene and safe techniques when engaging in anal play. This includes enemas for larger or deeper penetration, gloves and condoms on toys used.

Hygiene is important during anal play, not just for sexual health reasons or niceties. Also because the recipient will not relax if they are worried about mess. Also any mess can feel gritty and take away from an otherwise pleasurable experience.

Is Anal Stimulation Pleasurable?

For both males and females, anal play can be highly erotic. The more relaxed and turned on a person is, the better the experience and sensations. And that comes from the mind, as well as the anus.

When the penis is stimulated, the anus tightens. Any direct penile stimulation should occur once penetration is achieved, not during it. Some men find during anal play that their ‘pleasure centre” shifts and they cant maintain an erection. Other men have no issue. Some are intermittently erect or flaccid during play.

Everyone is different. If you do find maintaining an erection difficult, the professional Mistress should cease anal play leaving time to allow you to get erect and orgasm. If that is her aim 😉

Ejaculation aside, you can have multiple anal orgasms (which are completely different) as long as stimulation is continued. Orgasms from anal stimulation are a lot more intense and something to be experienced. Don’t be scared to try anal play. You can use your safe word if it isn’t for you or you are getting too sensitive.

Often anal play can increase the intensity of sensation during play when combined with other aspects such as electro or CBT.

Summary

Even if you have tried anal play with partners and haven’t been very turned on by the experience I would highly suggest trusting a professional dominatrix. A professional dominatrix will be much more experienced in this type of play and with a range of recipients. Her goal is to get into your head, make you horny and wanting to please her. Also she will give you a much more pleasurable experience with her skill and training. Stretching wide versus deep both offer different sensations. Preference for either or both is an individual thing.

Discipline Caning

Discipline Caning

Discipline caning for slut meant lots of giggles in session this evening, for me at least. I can say with certainty slut was not laughing, instead he was suitably nervous on arrival. Slut was due 70 cane strokes for behaviour correction. I decided to make things a little more interesting, with an incentive for him. The encounter was not off to a good start, with slut being late for our scheduled time.

Last caning he yelled through most of the paltry 12 strokes delivered. I decided that each stroke he took without yelling, would reduce the total due by an extra 2 strokes. Each stroke that caused him to yell, would only count as 1. This meant that at best he would only take 24 strokes of the cane, at worst all 70.

To make things more interesting for me, and more challenging for him I attached electro pads to his cock and balls. And set the Erostek to “microphone” setting placing it in line with his head under the bench top. As it turned out it was even better incentive than reduced strokes,. If he yelled not only did those strokes count as one each, but he would get zapped as he set off the electro-stim box.

I was slightly disappointed at how well he did during the discipline caning, only delivering 30 strokes all up with four different canes. Obviously I was being too kind to him in spite of my intentions. Next time that certainly wont be the case. He will also be penalised extra strokes for keeping me waiting, one for every minute he is late.

Nonetheless he was rewarded for his stoicism with some erotic tease afterwards, Some positive reinforcement encouraging more acceptable behaviour in future. I look forward to the next encounter..

Electrical bdsm play

Electrical bdsm play

There are two main implements used in electrical bdsm play. The violet wand is one and the tens unit is another. The Erostek is a more sophisticated electrical bdsm play implement than the tens unit. The violet wand and tens unit or Erostek deliver vastly different sensations to the recipient. Neither should be used with anyone who has a pacemaker, nor generally used above the waist.

I am yet to meet a submissive who enjoys the violet wand as its current is delivered more as a series of static electrical shocks. The tens unit or Erostek however most enjoy, the current being a rhythmic pulse sensation. There are various attachments one can use, from pads, to sounds, to dildos or anal plugs, cock rings and wartenburg wheels.

Electrical bdsm play can be either light and erotic or more intense depending both of the amount of electricity (battery or mains) and the intensity (volume level as it were) delivered. I use the Erostek as it is designed primarily for erotic use, whereas the tens unit is designed for physiotherapy. The tens has less pulse settings or range compared to an Erostek and the sensations are more crude.

Electrical bdsm play can seem daunting or scary at first but in the hands of a skilled Mistress should be safe and enjoyable no matter what intensity one enjoys. As you adjust to the sensation it can also be intensified through the session if desired. It can also be combined with other bdsm play. Broad flat attachments will be much less intense to the recipient than attachments such as the wartenburg which delivers the current from a small pointed area.

The past week I have seen a few sluts who have been surprised by their enjoyment of electrical bdsm play. One a relative novice, who had not experienced electrical bdsm play before. And was hesitant to try it, but bravely decided to trust me 😉 The other experienced, who I used more intense implements on namely the wartenburg wheel.

After adjusting to the sensations both were begging to have the electrical current turned up. My favourite is to combine electrical bdsm play with other CBT or discipline, hot wax, tease with the body wand vibrator. All of which work well going by various sluts’ reactions. It pays to trust the person you are seeing, which is any Mistress skilled in such play. You can always safeword if you find its not to your liking.

I had a lot of fun with both sluts this week, my novice slut by the end had me turn the Erostek almost three quarters of the way up 😉 Being open to various forms of play allows you to try different aspects of bdsm in a safe environment and find those that you enjoy. Also those you dont enjoy. Thats ok too, its part of the journey.

 

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Antics 10Jun19

Hopefully those in NSW have enjoyed their long weekend, i did !!! Below are some pics from the fun and games that have been keeping me too busy to update ! Not to mention the recent videos posted, a taste of what has gone on in session. Some of it rather funny.

Also over the weekend, one lucky slut was honoured with both Mistress Imperia and myself in a double session. It was great to catch up with not only an awesome Mistress but a long time friend, sadly with both our work schedules we dont get the chance to catch up as much these days.

Getting anyone to come out to parramatta is usually a challenge with varying schedules. I very much appreciated the effort she made, and we had a good giggle at slut’s expense for the afternoon. We finished off our abuse of slut by playing Hokie Pokie in his arse lol …. I’ve missed the comaraderie of working with other ladies I realised… or maybe just with her haha.

Enjoy the pics and hopefully I will see some of you soon 😉

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Antics 17May19

Apologies for my lax presence of late, in between bookings various commitments and trying to get this website /galleries bedded down have been keeping me busy :/ Next time i get a geat idea? Slap me. Although I might slap back lol

If you have any feedback on site, if anything isnt working as it should by all means ether comment below or email me. Thanks !

Anyway, some pics below from some fun sessions with sluts. Been doing some videoing and one lucky slut even had a double with Master Damion and myself. Been a while since we have worked together, I had loads of fun. Also added a mirror attachment to the end of the bench for those of you who like to watch the action.

If you click the pics below, they should open up into the larger size in slideshow.

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Phone gremlins seem to be plaguing me at the moment. I seem to be having some technology issues with receiving (or rather not receiving) sms from clients.

There are two clients whose sms I never received over the past few days, and another c;lient sms’d me yesterday but it only came through this evening unfortunately.

If I dont respond to an sms you have sent within a few hours (given I may be in session), can I please ask you to follow up with a phone call – those I seem to be getting, that I know of lol ! Hopefully that way I wont be seen to be ignoring people or not responding to booking requests.

I have restarted my phone and selected another mobile network but im unsure if its a reception issue or a Telstra one right now. Hopefully it fixes itself soon !

Thank you for understanding 🙂

Play ‘drop’

How to handle the play drop you may feel after some kinky fun

‘I tend to play pretty hard,’ Rizzo Barajas from Martinez, California told Gay Star News. ‘Usually involving blood or very hard physical impact play.’

Rizzo identifies as a queer agender person of color.

He’s also a switch, which means he alternates between taking either the submissive or dominant role during Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) sessions.

But sometimes after a heavy session (also known as a scene) he’ll go from extreme pleasure to an intense drop in his mood.

‘It’s kind of like extreme temperature changes,’ he said. ‘Running from the pool to the hot tub and then back to the pool.’

He continued: ‘It’s jarring for me to go from having the hell beaten out of me to sitting and having a cup of water while trying to socialize.’

Marilyn Hollinger from Millbrae, California describes herself as a ‘sadist, mistress, femme top who likes to play very hard’. She’s been in the leather scene since 1986 and identifies as a lesbian.

She described a ‘drop’ as a bit like a skydive.

Marilyn said: ‘In a usual scene, I find I experience euphoria and it’s almost like an altered state – it can feel like a drug sometimes where you’re just in such a state of pleasure and extreme emotional or physical feelings.

‘So when you’re in this high state, at some point, you come down. You come down into this normal state but sometimes you dip and that’s called a drop,’ she said.

What is a ‘drop’?

Susan Wright from Phoenix, Arizona is the founder and spokesperson for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

She said: ‘A drop is a feeling of depression or bodily decline.’ Susan said it’s a drop from the intense emotional, physical and mental feelings you had during the scene.

Dr Brad Sagarin is the Head of the Science of BDSM Research Team at Northern Illinois University.

Their research examines the positive physiological and psychological effects of consensual BDSM activities.

Sagarin explained: ‘Both bottoms and tops show increases in relationship closeness and reductions in psychological stress from before to after their scenes.’

Bottoms show increases in cortisol (a hormone associated with physiological stress) during scenes and tops show a ‘pleasurable altered state associated with optimal experiences.’

Dr Richard Sprott at the California State University wrote in the 2016 Journal of Positive Sexuality that ‘drops’ can happen to anyone.

They believe there are two different types of drop – immediate after-scene drop and drops that can happen days later.

Both types can leave people in a deep psychological process that leads to feeling ‘lost, ungrounded, disconnected, unsatisfied, depressed, irritable, vulnerable, raw, sad’.

The science behind a drop

Sprott and Randall theorize a ‘drop’ can be a process of grief and bereavement. Grief ‘refers to the emotional and cognitive reactions that a person has when one experiences a loss or separation.’

They also believe drops can be the result of a person losing their identity.

They wrote: ‘One’s self, or a central identity, is changing in some way. And that change involves a loss of the old self – the old identity.’

Susan said drops can range from being very mild to very intense, boiling down to endorphins and adrenaline.

She said: ‘After a scene, my body is trying to deal with flushing those chemicals out of your system and you really feel it.’

Susan also says a person experiencing a drop might have a little internalized shame.

She said: ‘For some people, the shame of being kinky and having done what you did may be the reason for a drop. We have so much societal disapproval and perhaps what they did conflicts with what their ideas of what a good person does.’

She added: ‘It’s a terrible thing for someone to feel bad about who they are – it’s why community is so important.’

Marilyn agreed: ‘Sometimes the bottom might think: “Oh well how can I be a good person if I like being hit?” or humiliated, or whatever it is we’re doing.

‘How can I be a good person and person of value? That all hits you in a drop,’ she said.

Another part of feeling a drop might be a physical reaction.

During an intense scene, you might be putting your body through strenuous positions.

If you strain your muscles too hard, you might get a build up of lactic acid. This, in turn, can lead to you feeling sore.

How to prevent a drop

The best way to prevent a drop is open and honest communication with any scene partner you might have.

An important way to do this is to negotiate with your partner beforehand about what you might need after the scene.

This could be as simple as a back rub, a cuddle or sharing a meal together.

Another great way to prevent a drop is to take things slow.

Susan explained: ‘One of the ways to prevent a drop is to have a more gradual build-up in the scene and then a more gradual drop off.

‘For example, if you wanted to do a caning scene, you start with the spanking, you warm up with a good 15 minutes of spanking and tapping lightly with the cane. Then you might administer a stroke of the cane.

‘Then you do your caning for however long you want and then you taper off. You stroke the rest of the body as a decline or you cuddle a lot afterwards,’ she said.

Rizzo agreed: ‘I like to do a cool down period where the impact is not as hard but is still present. It’s a slow change instead of a hard stop.’

Vigorous stretching beforehand and taking vitamin B is also a good way to deal with lactic acid build up.

Susan also said it helps not to do drugs or drink alcohol before or during a scene.

After care: Dealing with a drop

Every good BDSM-lover knows to have good after care when your scene is done.

After care is giving your body or mind what it needs in order to alleviate or stop a drop from happening.

Marilyn is a mistress and is currently in several master/slave relationships, where she’s the authority.

Even though she’s a top, she says she still experiences a drop in ‘virtually every level of play scene’ she does.

She explained she can be doing some very intense scene work, involving inflicting high levels of pain. But this is the complete opposite to how she is in the real world.

So a form of after care for her is scheduling a check-in with her partner after the scene is done.

She said: ‘Even though I’m the top, I need reassurance that I’m not evil. So that’s the reason I personally need a check in.’

Rizzo agreed and said he likes to follow up with subs he plays with in the days after, via text or phone calls. He always wants to make sure they’re OK physically and mentally, and if there is anything he can do for them.

He joked: ‘Remember – if you break it, you buy it. So don’t break it!’

Susan said a great way to deal with a drop is to have some chocolate.

She explained: ‘It helps mirror the oxytocin. So it can really help. Often, at parties, they can have little tables of sweets and chocolates.’

Marilyn said: ‘If I’m doing a scene on a Sunday for example, on Tuesday I’m going to time it so I’m not doing anything emotional because I know I’m going to be in a little bit of a funk.

‘That might be the time that I go do a massage,’ she said.

 

Source: Enjoy kink? Here’s how to handle the ‘drop’ you may feel after you play

 

 

Booking Fee

Due to an unprecedented amount of time wasting wankers making fake bookings, first time clients will now be required to pay a $50 deposit fee to secure a booking. This only applies to the first session to ensure those bookings are genuine.

Regrettably its the only way to weed the wankers out from genuine clients. This will NOT affect existing clients. The deposit may be paid by paypal or by cardless cash for those wanting no record of spending. Contact me to arrange payment.

I will also in future be publishing these idiots phone numbers, name and shame. I already list them on caller id sites for ANY person (friend, lover, wife, employer) to find should they google the number but will be also doing so on my own site from now on too.

Im running a business, not a kindergarten and genuine clients miss out from others’ childish behaviour.

Caning Technique

Caning Technique Posted by: Simon Blackthorne

September 1, 2014

 

Caning Technique

It requires remarkably little strength to deliver a memorable cane stroke. Think of it as a whip, not a stick. Think badminton, not tennis. Wrist alone (if your wrist is strong and supple) will be enough to satisfy many bottoms. Wrist and forearm combined suffice to deal an exhilarating cut. A wrist flick right at the end of the stroke can be devastating. Chastisers used to hold a book (try a Bible, if you’re very kinky) under their caning arms to limit the power of their strokes. A saber-stroke-style slash with shoulder, elbow, and wrist all fully involved is probably over-doing it.

Practice on a cushion upholstered in a nappy fabric (or a teddy bear) so you can see where you’re striking. Aim a few inches short of the edge of the pillow because a power stroke will reach further and wrap around more. Begin with the cane up next to where you want to strike, tap, draw back, and let it return mostly by its natural recoil, applying very little additional strength. Gradually increase the involvement of your wrist and then your elbow. Start the stroke further away from your target but continue to begin each stroke by drawing back, allowing the cane’s end to achieve maximum travel. Your goal is an even impact of about the last third of the cane’s length. You don’t want the tip to cut in. Once consistent accuracy has been attained, you can develop fancier strokes in your own personal style. After you’ve achieved control, practice on your partner’s clothed hindquarters. Use a wide, thick belt to protect the lower spine and kidneys. Insist on detailed feedback. You’re looking for an “Mmmmm!” You might chalk the end of the cane to tell exactly where your strokes land. British school prefects used to do this as an aid in striking repeatedly in precisely the same spot, a sadistic practice that is extremely painful and may result in deep, long-lasting bruises. Spread your strokes around.

Stand to the side and a bit forward of your target, so that the far buttock won’t receive the brunt of the blow. The ideal is an even stripe across both buttocks. Since this is difficult to achieve, you’ll want to move from your forehand to your backhand side periodically, in order to evenly treat both cheeks. The sulcus, or crease between the buttocks and thighs, is extremely sensitive, as are the backs of the thighs, because they lack the natural padding of the butt. If you intend to stimulate these areas, decrease the velocity of the strokes you direct there.

Stroke Variation

There are two main schools of caning technique. English-style traditionalists insist upon power strokes only, with no warm-up, while the West Coast school enjoys inflicting a variety of intensities. Many sources insist that there is no middle ground in caning — that strokes are either wimpy or wicked. Striving to please my partner, Rebecca, who loves to receive the cane but has a low pain threshold, I have proved that moderate strokes are possible with practice and sensitivity to each individual cane’s response.

A cane has a natural rhythm, useful for delivering a massage of rapid pitter-pats. An educated wrist can endlessly vary the intensity, unexpectedly interspersing harder shots to keep the bottom alert. This massaging technique is an excellent way to learn to control the impact and to stimulate sensitive but delicate areas where a full stroke would be dangerous, e.g. palms of the hands, soles of the feet (bastinado), insides of the thighs, armpits, belly, breasts, and genitals. The narrow tip of the cane is perfect for tickling those hard-to-reach spots. Such rap-tap-tapping is a great warm-up for power strokes.

Severe strokes demand ceremony, both in giving and receiving. For some, formal ritual is an essential element of caning. The ceremony begins with the commands, “Unbutton. Let down. Assume the position.” Dangling shirttails are “taken up,” tucked or pinned out of the way. The drawers may be slowly, humiliatingly lowered by the chastiser, or left up with a promise to lower them if the culprit proves unruly. A fearsome whistling swipe through the air puts the subject in the proper frame of mind.

The position is usually bent over, so that errant strokes will miss entirely rather than impacting the lower spine. (But aim low to avoid the tailbone.) Bending over tightens the flesh of the buttocks so that the stroke is felt more keenly. Lying prone is a good position for subjects of novice caners because downward strokes are easier to control, and unstretched buttocks are more padded. A pillow may be put on the far side of the target area to harmlessly absorb any wrap-around.

Power strokes must be slowly served and savored. The pain is two-fold: the surface smart at the moment of impact and the delayed internal fire as the compressed nerves spring back. To masochists, the sensation of a perfect stroke is as exquisite as an orgasm, and one has been known to lead to the other. Allow plenty of time for full appreciation of the blooming pain’s slow burn before you deal the next one.

Strokes are awarded in sets of six. Counting by the culprit is key. “One. Thank you Sir/Ma’am. May I have another?” Penalty strokes are awarded for miscounting, flinching out of position, or attempting to shield the target area with a hand. Bondage is seldom employed, since voluntary submission is an essential part of the correction ritual.

Decorative Results

It is customary to create a closely spaced grid of parallel stripes, each welt bearing twin red edges, to demonstrate your superb control. An expert caner is capable of producing stripes that will last for hours, days, or weeks, according to the recipient’s pleasure.

“Gating” is the fiendish technique of crossing such a pattern with a diagonal stroke, often drawing blood where the stripes intersect. (Obviously, if blood is drawn, the cane must be carefully plastic-bagged and disinfected, but it’s a rare bottom who hasn’t had enough well before this point.) Schoolboys returning to their dormitories after a session with the headmaster, used to rate the severity of their thrashings by having classmates count the number of “stars” on their bottoms, where strokes had crossed.

Afterward, the culprit may be required to hold position and forbidden to rub the afflicted area until permission is granted to rise. It is customary to kiss the cane and express gratitude for the exertions of the chastiser.

 

Source: BDSM Article – Caning How To Guide – WastelandBlog

 

 

Your Brain on BDSM

Why Getting Spanked and Tied Up Makes You Feel High

There’s no denying that understanding how the human body works can lead to some intense sex. After all, as clichéd as it is, the brain is the biggest erogenous zone—and BDSM is no different.

It may conjure up images of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, dominance, and submission, but many BDSM practictioners attribute the pleasurable pain of their fetish to the endorphin rush that accompanies the acting out of their fantasies. There’s even a word for the state of a submissive’s mind and body during and after consensual kinky play: subspace, often described as a “floaty” or “flying” feeling.

“For all of us, endorphins bind to opiate receptors to naturally relieve pain,” explains Maitresse Madeline Marlowe, a professional dominatrix who also works as a performer and director for Kink.com, a leading BDSM content
producer. “Since BDSM play can include power exchange and masochistic acts, endorphins are one of the most common neurotransmitters [produced].”

As far back as 1987, leather activist and author Dr. Geoff Mains hypothesized that BDSM activity stimulated the release of endorphins, but scientists have yet to tease out the exact relationship between neurochemicals and S&M. But subspace does exist: Dr. Brad Sagarin, founder of the Science of BDSM research team and a professor of social and evolutionary psychology at Northern Illinois University, has compared it to runner’s high, the sense of euphoria and increased tolerance for pain that some joggers feel after a long run. Except, obviously, one is caused by the asphalt flashing beneath your feet, the other by a whip swishing through the air.

In a 2009 study titled Hormonal Changes and Couple Bonding in Consensual Sadomasochistic Activity, Dr. Sagarin discovered that cortisol levels increase in subs and decrease in doms over the course of a scene. The effect was replicated in the research team’s subsequent research: One 2016 preliminary study which measured the brain’s executive functioning (i.e. basic control of our thoughts, emotions and actions) after participating in BDSM; and another that found that participants in the extreme S&M ritual known as the Dance of Souls (involving temporary piercings of the skin with weights or hooks attached) exhibited increases in cortisol throughout the ritual.

“Like many potentially stressful or extreme experiences (e.g., sky-diving, fire-walking), individuals’ bodies react to that stress when they engage in BDSM,” Science of BDSM researcher Kathryn Klement told Broadly. “We interpret these cortisol results to mean that when people engage in BDSM play (as the receiver of sensations) or extreme rituals, their bodies release a hormone usually associated with stress. However, we’ve also found that people subjectively report their psychological stress decreasing, so there is a disconnect between what the body is experiencing, and what the individual is perceiving.”

For their 2016 study on brain functioning, Klement admits that the team didn’t directly measure brain activity (“that would require an fMRI, which would be tricky to incorporate into a BDSM scene”). Instead, they had
participants complete a Stroop test—a neuropsychological assessment commonly used to detect brain damage—before and after a scene. “Bottoms do much worse on this measure after the scene, while tops show no difference,” Klement says.

They inferred from the study that the changes in executive functioning were as a result of the brain redirecting blood flow from higher-order functions to lower-order functions. Writing in the Guardian, Dr. Sagarin revealed that
this “temporary impairment of the brain’s executive function capability” was often accompanied by “feelings of floating, peacefulness, time distortion, and living in the here and now.”

“We interpret these changes to be evidence of subspace, an altered state of consciousness that people who are receiving sensations (the bottoms) can experience,” Klement says. But what about the psychological subspace felt by those experiencing nonphysical play, such as humiliation, pet play, and other fetishes? According to Marlowe, this is where an understanding of behavioural psychology comes in handy.

“In the context of humiliation and pet play, classical and operant conditioning play a huge roll in how these types of fetishes play out. Classical conditioning, made famous by Pavlov’s dog experiment, involves placing a signal before a reflex,” Marlowe explains. “Let’s think of it in a scenario where the domme and sub are enjoying puppy play. The domme may present a signal of a click of her boot, which will lead to the privilege of puppy licking the boot clean. The click of the boot is a neutral stimulus paired with an unconditioned stimulus of licking the boot clean. It is a learned response.”

Operant conditioning, on the other hand, involves reinforcement or punishment after a behaviour. “In the context of humiliation, it can be used to punish and then reinforce a behaviour until it is made right. Let’s say a submissive shows up to be pegged. They made a choice not to shave their derriere hole, [even though the] domme prefers a shaved hole to peg. Instead of getting the pegging session of their dreams, they are humiliated by their domme. I guarantee the next time they arrive to play, that hole would be baby soft. [And] once the sub gets the pegging play of their dreams, it reinforces the voluntary choice to shave.”

Snow Mercy, a pro-domme with a PhD in biochemistry, has done a survey of peer-reviewed research and apart from Dr. Sagarin’s study, she says there is a dearth of academic literature and empirical data on the relationship between biopsychology and BDSM. “I cannot say I’ve used the science of neurochemicals to create a more
thorough scene [but] I love studying the science of BDSM,” she says. “I find that BDSM research is a relatively new field. No other studies have been published that show the relationship between BDSM and neurochemicals,
from what I can tell.”

Indeed, most modern academic studies on BDSM are far more focused on questioning and debunking its association with psychopathology. Conversely, one of the earliest reference books on sadomasochist
behaviours and relationships, Psychopathia Sexualis, by Richard von Krafft-Ebing in 1886, dismisses the practice and its practitioners as pathological—a trend that continued in the field of psychiatry under Sigmund Freud and other eminent psychiatrists of their times.

In 2006, results from a research project by Dr. Pamela Connolly involving 32 self-identified BDSM practitioners surmised that “although psychoanalytic literature suggests that high levels of certain types of psychopathology should be prevalent among BDSM practitioners, this sample failed to produce widespread, high levels of psychopathology on psychometric measures of depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsion, psychological sadism, psychological masochism, or PTSD.”

Connolly’s findings are supported by a 2016 Dutch study of 902 kinksters, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, which concluded that the BDSM practitioners were “less neurotic, more extraverted [and] more conscientious” than the 434 respondents in the control. Evidence that BDSM leads to favorable psychological characteristics. Will academics now turn their sights on the particular psychology and biochemistry occurring during the scenes? Klement says her research team is certainly interested in branching into oxytocin based on their work “indicating that BDSM partners experience increased relationship closeness during scenes.”

Further studies into the role that endorphins play in relation to subspace and BDSM in general may also be on the cards. “We haven’t explored these substances in relation to BDSM, so we can’t comment. However, it is possible that changes in these chemicals relate to bottoms’ experiences of sub-space,” she says. Mercy certainly expects to see future research done on the relationship between brain activity and S&M activities. “With the destigmatization of BDSM,” she says, “I hope to see more studies on the physiology of this practice.”

 

Source: Your Brain on BDSM. Why getting spanked and tied up makes you feel high.

 

 

Antics 26Feb19

Antics 26Feb19 Fun roleplay with one slut, caught him cheating on his wife. Some verbal humiliation while he was positioned hands on head, his arse disciplined and told his punishment. That included caning his hands and his ass over the knee, till rosy pink. Followed by repositioning him on the bench to receive 18 strokes of the cane before he was sent on his way, suitably chastised.

Another received some nipple torture and discipline before being attached to the electro box for further torment on his cock and balls. Finally moved him to the sling before giving his arse a good fucking with various sized cocks.

Strapped another slut to the cross, cock tied, and weights attached before disciplining his cock with the cane. Placed his cock in chastity and moved him to the bench for some further torment, teasing slut until he begged to be released and allowed to cum. I took mercy on him, force feeding him his cum when he finally exploded.

Another slut was hooded and cuffed, cock and balls tied, spreader bar between his legs as he was at the cross. He was spanked and flogged, clamps attached to his nipples being pulled on intermittently for my amusement, as i squeezed his balls in my hands and slapped his cock till he couldnt contain himself any longer and was allowed release.

Finally a short intense caning with a slut today, light for me but not so light for him lol. Pics above, he did well though. 24 strokes of the cane, harder than last time and no warm up either. Hopefully he feels it for a few days 😛

Antics 22Feb19

Antics 22Feb19

Antics 22Feb19 fun with a new slut last night. Mummification, hood, gag, nipple and CBT play. He experienced the joys of electro play for the first time, and not the last going by his reaction.Some light anal tease on the floor, before moving slut to the sling and strapping him in, arms, legs and torso with leather belts. Nicely restrained I tormented him with the vibrator and more electro until he exploded over himself.

Antics 05Feb19

Antics 05Feb19 Some pics of the fun had over the weekend…

 

Pleasure and Pain

Pleasure and Pain

20/20 Pleasure and Pain video circa 2010. Video I participated in by NZ show 20/20 about the fetish scene in Sydney.

You can watch it at the following link:

 Pleasure and pain