Discipline and Bondage

Discipline and Bondage

Discipline and Bondage video below. This was an older video of fun with a friend at his play space. You can watch it below at the following link:

 Discipline and Bondage

Twisted Antics

Twisted Antics

Some pics showing the twisted antics lately with some fun new sluts, and some I haven’t seen for a while.

I do so love the unusual and bent, and it seems to be the flavour of the month (such as golden showers squirted through gags and into eye goggles). I have also had some fun bi play with Master Damion, as well as tormenting a few cock sluts, cross dressers and sissies.

Also some new toys gifted by one of my favourite regular sluts that I have been having fun with. Other than that, after annihilating my website I have been kept busy trying to restore everything as it was. Torture for me, I’m much more talented in the playroom than the back end of a website :/

Thankfully I am getting there. I appreciate everyone’s patience. I apologise for the lack of updates but there are only so many hours in the day 😉


Leathered up

Leathered up

Leathered up

Fun start to the day with a very responsive anal slut. Started off small, working him up to my fist till he mercied and had enough.

The day ended on a different note – with a new slut, a leather fetishist. Roleplay and lots of tease with the leather outfit, gloves and sensation play.

He didnt last as long as i hoped getting rather excited. I took pity on him and allowed the slut to cum …. this time 😉

Lots of new sluts

Lots of new sluts

Lots of new sluts mixed in with regulars of late. Anal, discipline, sounds, vac bed, mummification etc. A few new toys too. Some pics below.

Needle Play

Needle Play

Some needle play on one of my sluts. You can watch the video at the following link:

 Needle Play


Anal Slut

Anal Slut

Another anal slut video below. You can watch it below at the following link:

 Anal Slut

New thigh high boots

New thigh high boots as a belated birthday present from a very generous slut. I hope he enjoys me wearing them, as much as I shall 🙂 A few pics below taken yesterday.

Been a very busy couple of weeks, especially this one. A lot of fun new sluts to torment as well. More on that later.

Anal Stimulation

What is Anal Stimulation?
What is Prostate Milking?
How Safe is Anal Stimulation?
Is Anal Stimulation Pleasurable?


What is Anal Stimulation?

Anal stimulation can involve anything that penetrates the anus stimulating the prostate. This includes fingers, toys or vibrators, strap on dildos, fisting including both, or long toys and arms for depth. Anal stimulation should never be forced. The goal is to stretch the muscles while relaxing the sphincter not to force penetration or tear the area.

What is Prostate Milking?

Prostate milking is often confused with prostate massage when it comes to anal stimulation. Prostate milking occurs when a certain area around the prostate is massaged. This causes release of seminal fluid without the accompanying pleasure experienced by orgasm. It tends to be used more in conjunction with chastity play to maintain sexual health of the slave without allowing them pleasure.

In my experience prostate milking is rarely what someone actually wants, unless they are into chastity play or denial of orgasm.

How Safe is Anal Stimulation?

Any skilled and trained Sydney Mistress should practice good sexual hygiene and safe techniques when engaging in anal play. This includes enemas for larger or deeper penetration, gloves and condoms on toys used.

Hygiene is important during anal play, not just for sexual health reasons or niceties. Also because the recipient will not relax if they are worried about mess. Also any mess can feel gritty and take away from an otherwise pleasurable experience.

Is Anal Stimulation Pleasurable?

For both males and females, anal play can be highly erotic. The more relaxed and turned on a person is, the better the experience and sensations. And that comes from the mind, as well as the anus.

When the penis is stimulated, the anus tightens. Any direct penile stimulation should occur once penetration is achieved, not during it. Some men find during anal play that their ‘pleasure centre” shifts and they cant maintain an erection. Other men have no issue. Some are intermittently erect or flaccid during play.

Everyone is different. If you do find maintaining an erection difficult, the professional Mistress should cease anal play leaving time to allow you to get erect and orgasm. If that is her aim 😉

Ejaculation aside, you can have multiple anal orgasms (which are completely different) as long as stimulation is continued. Orgasms from anal stimulation are a lot more intense and something to be experienced. Don’t be scared to try anal play. You can use your safe word if it isn’t for you or you are getting too sensitive.

Often anal play can increase the intensity of sensation during play when combined with other aspects such as electro or CBT.


Even if you have tried anal play with partners and haven’t been very turned on by the experience I would highly suggest trusting a professional dominatrix. A professional dominatrix will be much more experienced in this type of play and with a range of recipients. Her goal is to get into your head, make you horny and wanting to please her. Also she will give you a much more pleasurable experience with her skill and training. Stretching wide versus deep both offer different sensations. Preference for either or both is an individual thing.

Discipline Caning

Discipline Caning

Discipline caning for slut meant lots of giggles in session this evening, for me at least. I can say with certainty slut was not laughing, instead he was suitably nervous on arrival. Slut was due 70 cane strokes for behaviour correction. I decided to make things a little more interesting, with an incentive for him. The encounter was not off to a good start, with slut being late for our scheduled time.

Last caning he yelled through most of the paltry 12 strokes delivered. I decided that each stroke he took without yelling, would reduce the total due by an extra 2 strokes. Each stroke that caused him to yell, would only count as 1. This meant that at best he would only take 24 strokes of the cane, at worst all 70.

To make things more interesting for me, and more challenging for him I attached electro pads to his cock and balls. And set the Erostek to “microphone” setting placing it in line with his head under the bench top. As it turned out it was even better incentive than reduced strokes,. If he yelled not only did those strokes count as one each, but he would get zapped as he set off the electro-stim box.

I was slightly disappointed at how well he did during the discipline caning, only delivering 30 strokes all up with four different canes. Obviously I was being too kind to him in spite of my intentions. Next time that certainly wont be the case. He will also be penalised extra strokes for keeping me waiting, one for every minute he is late.

Nonetheless he was rewarded for his stoicism with some erotic tease afterwards, Some positive reinforcement encouraging more acceptable behaviour in future. I look forward to the next encounter..

Electrical bdsm play

Electrical bdsm play

There are two main implements used in electrical bdsm play. The violet wand is one and the tens unit is another. The Erostek is a more sophisticated electrical bdsm play implement than the tens unit. The violet wand and tens unit or Erostek deliver vastly different sensations to the recipient. Neither should be used with anyone who has a pacemaker, nor generally used above the waist.

I am yet to meet a submissive who enjoys the violet wand as its current is delivered more as a series of static electrical shocks. The tens unit or Erostek however most enjoy, the current being a rhythmic pulse sensation. There are various attachments one can use, from pads, to sounds, to dildos or anal plugs, cock rings and wartenburg wheels.

Electrical bdsm play can be either light and erotic or more intense depending both of the amount of electricity (battery or mains) and the intensity (volume level as it were) delivered. I use the Erostek as it is designed primarily for erotic use, whereas the tens unit is designed for physiotherapy. The tens has less pulse settings or range compared to an Erostek and the sensations are more crude.

Electrical bdsm play can seem daunting or scary at first but in the hands of a skilled Mistress should be safe and enjoyable no matter what intensity one enjoys. As you adjust to the sensation it can also be intensified through the session if desired. It can also be combined with other bdsm play. Broad flat attachments will be much less intense to the recipient than attachments such as the wartenburg which delivers the current from a small pointed area.

The past week I have seen a few sluts who have been surprised by their enjoyment of electrical bdsm play. One a relative novice, who had not experienced electrical bdsm play before. And was hesitant to try it, but bravely decided to trust me 😉 The other experienced, who I used more intense implements on namely the wartenburg wheel.

After adjusting to the sensations both were begging to have the electrical current turned up. My favourite is to combine electrical bdsm play with other CBT or discipline, hot wax, tease with the body wand vibrator. All of which work well going by various sluts’ reactions. It pays to trust the person you are seeing, which is any Mistress skilled in such play. You can always safeword if you find its not to your liking.

I had a lot of fun with both sluts this week, my novice slut by the end had me turn the Erostek almost three quarters of the way up 😉 Being open to various forms of play allows you to try different aspects of bdsm in a safe environment and find those that you enjoy. Also those you dont enjoy. Thats ok too, its part of the journey.


Antics 22Jul19

Been having a lot of fun recently, both with some new sluts and regulars taking advantage of the special running until the end of this month.

I have also been enjoying putting some sluts through their paces with some new toys purchased, pics below.

I was also kindly gifted some more sounds by another favourite slut the other day, different to what I already have. Those I am yet to experiment with 🙂

Don’t forget, the special running ends 31 July !


Special Rate

Special rate on all 1hr Mistress sessions for Regulars until the end of July. Call to enquire/book.

Fisting fun

Fisting fun

Fisting fun video below. You can watch it at the following link:

 Fisting Fun

Antics 10Jun19

Hopefully those in NSW have enjoyed their long weekend, i did !!! Below are some pics from the fun and games that have been keeping me too busy to update ! Not to mention the recent videos posted, a taste of what has gone on in session. Some of it rather funny.

Also over the weekend, one lucky slut was honoured with both Mistress Imperia and myself in a double session. It was great to catch up with not only an awesome Mistress but a long time friend, sadly with both our work schedules we dont get the chance to catch up as much these days.

Getting anyone to come out to parramatta is usually a challenge with varying schedules. I very much appreciated the effort she made, and we had a good giggle at slut’s expense for the afternoon. We finished off our abuse of slut by playing Hokie Pokie in his arse lol …. I’ve missed the comaraderie of working with other ladies I realised… or maybe just with her haha.

Enjoy the pics and hopefully I will see some of you soon 😉

Apologies to subscribers

I seem to have inadvertently spammed people by restoring a bunch of posts I previously deleted trying to shortcut some backend website work I was doing.

I wasnt aware restoring them would send out notifications, so I humbly apologies for my lack of webdesign skills :/

Disciplining slut

Disciplining Slut

Disciplining slut video below. This was some of last weekend’s fun. You can watch at the following link:

 Disciplining slut


Tormenting a friend

Tormenting a friend

Tormenting a friend video below. This was an older video of fun with a friend at his play space. You can watch it at the following link:

 Tormenting a friend

The difference a day can make…

Wow, such a loss Steve Jobs passing. Wanted to share an article I read. Sad.

Steve Jobs Was Always Kind To Me (Or, Regrets of An Asshole)

I met Steve Jobs while I worked at Gizmodo. He was always a gentleman. Steve liked me and he liked Gizmodo. And I liked him back. Some of my friends who I used to work with at Gizmodo refer to those days as the Good Old Days. That is because those were the days before it all went to shit. That was before we got the iPhone 4 prototype.


The first time I met Steve was at the infamous D conference where Walt Mossberg interviewed Bill Gates and Steve JobsRyan Block was editor of Engadget and it was a pretty fierce competition. Ryan was a veteran, and I was just getting my legs under me. It was lunchtime, and Ryan saw Jobs–he ran up and said hello. A minute later, I gathered up the courage and did the same.

From a 2007 Gizmodo post:

Meeting Steve Jobs

I bumped into Steve Jobs in the hall a little while ago, on the way to lunch at All Things D.

He’s taller than I thought he would be, and pretty tanned. Hawaii. I go to introduce myself and then think that he’s probably busy and doesn’t want to be mobbed. I go get some salad, think that its my job to be at least a little aggressive with these things, so I put down my plate, and I finally squeeze by the crowd to introduce myself. No banter, just wanted to say hi, I’m Brian from Gizmodo. And you made the iPod, right? (I didn’t say that second part.)

Then Steve got really excited and happy.

And he tells me that he reads the site. Actually, 3-4 times a day, since it doesn’t sit still for very long. I told him that I appreciate the clicks, and that I’ll keep buying iPods if he keeps clicking. It’s his favorite gadget blog. It was a really, really nice moment. His face scrunched up with genuine excitement. I must have looked like one of those gals front row at a Beatles concert, as much as I tried to be “professional.”

Because honestly, I thought the guy would be totally worked up about Jesus’s awesome Photoshops of Steve Jobs. The man has a sense of humor.

It was an honor to have a man who is extremely focused on quality and doing things in his own way approve of our work here. Especially with all the typos I make on a daily basis.

A few years later, I remember emailing him to show him early versions of the Gawker redesign. He didn’t really like it. But he liked us. “most of the time.”

“From: Steve Jobs <sjobs@apple.com;

Subject: Re: Gizmodo on iPad

Date: March 31, 2010 6:00:56 PM PDT

To: brian lam <blam@gizmodo.com;


Parts of it I like, and other parts I don’t understand.  I’m not sure the “information density” is high enough for you and your brand.  Seems a bit too tame to me.  I’ll look for it this weekend and be able to give you some more useful feedback after that.

I like what you guys do most of the time, and am a daily reader.


Sent from my iPad

On Mar 31, 2010, at 1:06 PM, brian lam wrote:

Here you go, a rough sketch. Should be launched, as the standard face of Gizmodo, by the 3g’s launch. What it’s meant to do is be friendlier to scan for the 97% of our readers who don’t come every day…”


Around the same time, Jobs was shopping around the iPad to publishers, trying to get them to adopt the iPad as a platform, and Jobs would repeatedly, according to friends in the room at several publications, bring up Gizmodo as an example of a magazine-like experience online.

I don’t ever think I was comfortable with the idea that Jobs or anyone at Apple, like Jon Ive, was reading our work. It was scrappy, sloppy, inspired, mainstream-ish, and in general, experimental in nature. It was, frankly, embarrassing to have people who were obsessed with perfection reading something that was designed to be imperfect but alive and flowing. It was also firmly anti-establishment, like Apple used to be.

But Apple was winning and was starting to become the Establishment. I knew it was only a matter of time before we collided. Getting bigger is sometimes hard, I was about to find out.


I was on sabbatical when Jason got his hands on the iPhone prototype.

An hour after the story went live, the phone rang and the number was from Apple HQ. I figured it was someone from the PR team. It was not.

“Hi, this is Steve. I really want my phone back.”

He wasn’t demanding. He was asking. And he was charming and he was funny. I was half-naked, just getting back from surfing, but I managed to keep my shit together.

“I appreciate you had your fun with our phone and I’m not mad at you, I’m mad at the sales guy who lost it. But we need the phone back because we can’t let it fall into the wrong hands.”

I thought, maybe its already in the wrong hands?

He continued, “There are two ways we can do this. I can send someone to pick up the phone–”

Me: “I don’t have it”

“–But you know someone who does…or we can send someone with legal papers, and I don’t want to do that.”

He was giving us an easy way out.

I told him I had to talk to my dudes. Before he hung up, he asked me, “What do you think of it?”

I said, “It’s beautiful.”


The next call, I told him we’d give him his phone back. He said, “Great, where do we send someone?” And I replied that before we talked about that, we needed to talk about the conditions: we needed Apple to claim it as theirs, which is what we saw as the right legal process for claiming goods that had been lost. He said he didn’t want to claim it on record because it would affect sales of the current model. He said, “you’re asking me to shoot my toes off!” Maybe it was about the money, but maybe it wasn’t. I got the feeling that he just didn’t want to be told what to do, and I didn’t want to be told what to do, either. Especially by someone who I was supposed to be covering. Plus, I was sort of in a position to tell Steve Jobs what to do, and I was going to take it.

This time, he was not happy. He had to talk to some people, so we hung up again.

When he called me back, the first thing he said was, “Hey Brian, it’s YOUR NEW BEST FAVORITE PERSON IN THE WORLD.”

I laughed and so did he.  Then, he sharply pivoted and said, “So what’s it gonna be?”

I gave it to him straight: “If you don’t want to give us the letter claiming it, I guess it’s going to be papers. It doesn’t matter because one way or another we’ll get our confirmation that it is yours.”

He did not like that. Steve said, “This is some serious shit. If I have to serve you papers, and go through the trouble of it, I’m coming for something and its going to mean someone in your organization will go to jail.”

I told him we didn’t know anything about the phone being stolen, and we intended to give it back, but we needed Apple to claim it. Then I said I’d go to jail for this story. And then he realized I wasn’t going to budge.

Then things got a little bit uglier, and dicier, and I don’t want to get into that stuff on a day like today because my point is that he is a beautiful and fair man and probably not used to not getting his way and he was clearly not getting his way on this day. Everyone has things that make them angry. My point is coming up.

Steve called me back, with a cold tone in his voice, saying he would send a note claiming the device. The last thing I said to him was “Steve, I just wanted to say that I like my job, and its exciting sometimes, but sometimes we have to do things that are difficult and what some might consider parasitic, with regards to reporting on health. And things like this.”

I told him I love Apple, but I have to do what’s right for the public and readers. I was trying to hide the fact that I was sad.

He replied, “You’re just doing your job.” And he said it in the kindest way possible. Which made me feel better and worse.

This was the last time Steve would be kind to me.


I’d walked around justifying how things went down for weeks after that. One day, a veteran reporter friend of mine and I were talking about the situation. At some point he asked me if I realized, irrespective of right or wrong, that we’d caused Apple a lot of trouble. I paused, and thought about Apple and Steve for a little bit, and all the designers and hard working people who built the phone. I said, “Yes.” I started to justify it as the right thing for the readers, and then I stopped. And I just kept thinking about Apple and Steve and how they felt. And thats when I knew my heart was not proud.

I will not regret things professionally. The scoop was big. People loved it. If I could do it again, I’d do the first story about the phone again.

But I probably would have given the phone back without asking for the letter. And I would have done the story about the engineer who lost it with more compassion and without naming him. Steve said we’d had our fun and we had the first story but we were being greedy. And he was right. We were. It was sore winning. And we were also being short sighted. And, sometimes, I wish we never found that phone at all. That is basically the only way this could have been painless. But that’s life. Sometimes there’s no easy way out.

I thought about the dilemma every day for about a year and half. It caused me a lot of grief, and stopped writing almost entirely. It made my spirit weak. Three weeks ago, I felt like I had had enough. I wrote my apology letter to Steve.

“From: brian lam <blam@thescuttlefish.com>

Subject: Hey Steve

Date: September 14, 2011 12:31:04 PM PDT

To: Steve Jobs <sjobs@apple.com>

Steve, a few months have passed since all that iphone 4 stuff went down, and I just wanted to say that I wish things happened differently. I probably should have quit right after the first story was published for several different reasons. I didn’t know how to say that without throwing my team under the bus, so I didn’t. Now I’ve learned it’s better to lose a job I don’t believe in any more than to do it well and keep it just for that sake.

I’m sorry for the problems I caused you.



Young Steve Jobs was known for being unforgiving to those who betrayed him. But a few days ago I’d heard from a person very close to him that “it was all water under the bridge.” I never expected to get a response and I never did. But after sending that I forgave myself. And my writer’s block lifted.

I just feel lucky I had the chance to tell a kind man that I was sorry for being an asshole before it was too late.

I think we can all learn something from that.

Antics 17May19

Apologies for my lax presence of late, in between bookings various commitments and trying to get this website /galleries bedded down have been keeping me busy :/ Next time i get a geat idea? Slap me. Although I might slap back lol

If you have any feedback on site, if anything isnt working as it should by all means ether comment below or email me. Thanks !

Anyway, some pics below from some fun sessions with sluts. Been doing some videoing and one lucky slut even had a double with Master Damion and myself. Been a while since we have worked together, I had loads of fun. Also added a mirror attachment to the end of the bench for those of you who like to watch the action.

If you click the pics below, they should open up into the larger size in slideshow.